Below are recommendations to help you know when something is wrong unhealthy unsustainable building on the sand:
If you don’t feel safe
There’s no way you can feel safe and trust at the same time. If you don’t feel safe, you can’t trust, and when you can’t trust then the relationship will not work. Without building trust first, nothing can be built. It’s the building block of everything. Everything falls apart without it.
Therefore, what makes individuals feel unsafe?
Apart from the well-known like physical abuse, infidelity and emotional abuse, there’s poor communication, jealousy and character assignation.
You should explore why you not feeling safe before you begin to blame games. Maybe you are the problem. After finding out why you don’t feel safe, you can communicate that. You shouldn’t leave with claims that you don’t feel safe. However, if someone doesn’t make you feel safe or can’t make you feel safe then it means you are with the wrong individual.
If everything’s boring
Most of the time in your relationship you’ll be watching movies, hanging out or sharing meals. Though sex is important, you won’t be doing it the whole day, it’s just an hour every night and that’s only if things are good. Therefore, without the banter pieces’ things can get boring. In any case, you are unable to have deep meaningful conversations with someone, that’s already an indication that they are not good for you. Even if there is great intimacy. It will be short-lived if great banter is not there. Good banters keep the relationship moving.
Everything is about them
Some individuals can’t make it about anyone else but just them. There’s nothing more painful than feeling alone in a relationship. If you feel alone then you need to ask yourself how much that will cost you and your journey, and how it will cost your partner and your relationship too. In any case, the relationship makes you feel alone and you can’t fix your partner, then you are with the wrong person.
They are dictators
There are distinct forms of control. The worst is subtle control. You will be able to spot other people’s controlling ways if you know your worth. However, it’s not easy to spot subtle control. In any case, you feel like you’re being controlled, you certainly are.
If somebody is a dictator and is not willing to change, you are with the wrong person.
Intimacy is about connection and it’s not all about sex. When there’s no connection, that’s a flag although it doesn’t mean anything serious. The flag will, however, turn into a sign if you two can’t reconnect.
You are definitely with the wrong person if no matter where you go you don’t get better reception.
Those are signs that you might be with the wrong person. That’s said, I trust that people can talk things over and try to make things work in a relationship.
You always wonder what you did wrong when left by someone you love. You wonder why they stopped loving you and if there is anything you could have done to change it.
You always hear the thoughts they leave unspoken, especially if you are the one leaving. You feel like you know their thoughts and wished you can stop them from having those thoughts. You weren’t aware of the fact that leaving can be so hard.
Your hurts portray itself in different ways when you are left by someone you love. Other times the hurt manifests out as anger. You use spiteful words to hurt them back. At times you live in denial and the hurt doesn’t manifest at all. Sometimes you become unable to do anything and just feel the hurt.
When you are the one leaving, you always feel a different kind of pain. You don’t feel its impact immediately but you will later. You will hurt because you caused someone else pain.
You always think time will heal the pain you are feeling when left with someone you love. You count days and months to see if you are getting better. You think it’s time that’s lessening the effects not knowing it’s just by living.
Time is not important if you are the one leaving. You are just aware of the happenings and don’t feel time passing or standing still.
When the one you love leaves you, you are always reminded of them everywhere you go. The memories of all the things you used to do come back. There’s nothing you can do to erase the memories.
When you are the one leaving, the memories still come back but you can still visit your favorite spots and joints without feeling bad. You don’t mind those memories but enjoy them.
Have you tried getting your ex back but you don’t see any effort?
Have you felt like you’ve tried everything to have them back only to feel like you’re not satisfied like you were in the past?
Are you confused about whether you should just lose hope on that relationship and just move on?
The answer to this question looks easy since some individuals will just say, but they are an ex for a reason, but for you, it might feel like something else.
It’s quite unfortunate that there are days you just have to give up on your relationship even if you still love the other person and that’s exactly what I want to discuss today.
Below are signs that you should definitely lose hope on your relationship with your ex and begin to get over it for good.
- Your ex is in a serious relationship with somebody else
Trust me, you’re just hurting yourself by looking at their wedding photos on Facebook. Just call it quits when they start staying with someone else, get into another relationship or better marry another person.
The fact that they have moved on should be a sign that you should start getting over them. If you have plans of making them split you’re just doing zero work. And so is the thoughts that maybe one day they’ll their husband or wife for you. It’s quite unfortunate that you might feel like you need the relationship but they don’t feel like that anymore.
- There are several things you were unable to solve in your relationship
It can be tiring to get your ex back. There are so many reason s to call it to quit forever, from them wanting kids but you don’t want to disagreements and drug abuse etc. when trying to get them back, these things won’t be evident but know that if you become successful and got them back, you will still face the same serious problems that made you broke up. It’s not worthy to keep trying if you can’t solve those problems.
- You were abused
Do not even think about this. Just go for good.
- There’s a lack of respect between you
This poisons the relationship over time. You should consider having a family or if you have one, you’ll be able to see the effect of this.
Would you like to see your children grow up thinking that disrespecting their mates is very okay? Most likely not. Individuals usually defend this saying that it’s not bad while it will just affect their family as they look. Respect is very important in every relationship and you’re worthy of it, and so is your partner.
- They just disappeared
This means they didn’t respect you. They didn’t bother to tell you that the relationship was over.
Let’s say they come back, what makes you sure they won’t dump you like that again? You do not want to worry constantly if they’ll leave each and every time they go out. If you keep worrying like this, you’ll just destabilize your relationship forever.
- When welcoming them back has just taken over your life and lowered your self-esteem
I have said this before and ill still repeat. There are crazy things unhealthy that heartbreaks can make us go through. Driving to your ex and sob at the door may seem normal.
You are wasting your time if you decide to cling in this place of heartbreak. Being in this kind of situation will just lower your self-esteem which is not good.
Lastly, you’re the only one to decide what time is best for you to move on. But if you’re experiencing the things above I’ll urge you to reconsider whether its time calls it to quit and let your ex be and turn a new page in your relationship life.
Why does it seem that the bad guys always get what they want? It’s frustrating. And it seems that everyone else does, too. So why is it please that these guys breeze through life unscathed by the stressors and set backs the rest of us face. They get the jobs and the get the girls. It may sound like envy and it is. Doesn’t everyone want to be rich and have a happy relationship?
So maybe its time to look at what is ensuring their success.
Bad guys don’t care
They don’t. They just don’t care what other people think of them. They do what they want when they want. They have found what the want to do and they just do it. They are simply living their lives. Now ask yourself, do you do what you want? Or do you spend most of your time fumbling your way around the world? So now, take stock of what you want in your life and go live it.
Bad guys have guts
Bad guys have no fear. They will do what they want and not look back. They can do whatever they want because they are not afraid. If living in a constant state of apprehension is holding you back, try living without fear controlling you. All you have to do is try and be willing to fail.
Bad guys aren’t afraid to brag.
You’ve seen them, guys who don’t appear to have much to be proud of, yet they make the most out of what they have and they own it. They aren’t afraid to put it all out there, no matter what it is. Sometimes there is no room for humility. Celebrate the moments of your success. Take your moment to shine. Once you begin to live your life fearlessly and to the fullest, you should learn to celebrate it.
Bad guys are always hunting.
No matter what they are looking for, bad guys are always out there looking for the next catch. No matter what they are in the market for, they are always looking for it. They go for it, all of the time. This is good for them because they know that they can’t be successful if they don’t try. This is a lesson we can all learn.
Bad guys never let a chance slip by
No matter what it is, a sale, a job opportunity or even just the last cinnamon bagel. The bad guy grabs each chance as it comes up. They know it is not a luck or fate, it is an opportunity that they didn’t let pass them by and the keep pursuing it.
So why are they bad guys? There are some people who are genuinely bad, but the ones we refer to now are the ones who have the characteristics we wish we had.
It’s hard to know if the person you are with or you have been with is the right individual for you. Falling in love makes us blind such that we are unable to view a person the way he or she should be viewed. We only decide to see their best behaviors and ignore the bad ones. We ignore the fact that we are bound to be disappointed regardless of the love we show each other.
You will experience a lot of pain during the weeks or months before finally breaking up. You’ll be uncertain, confused and depressed.
You don’t know whether to quite the relationship or continue fighting for it.
There are excusable reasons to let go although leaving someone is always considered a bad move. Below are some of the moments you might be excused when you move on.
YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH THE RELATIONSHIP
We are affected differently in relationships. When are close with someone, our consciousness is greatly affected and we find ourselves loving and caring more for that person. Our view of life and our emotions will largely be affected by the status of our relationship. If a relationship makes you unhappy every time, stressed and depressed then you should let go. You won’t be blamed by anyone.
YOU EXPERIENCE MORE BAD TIMES THAN GOOD TIMES
It’s normal for a relationship to have ups and downs. Nevertheless, when the downs outweigh the ups then something is definitely wrong.
The relationship you had with your companion made you feel good and that’s why you started seeing them in the first place.
The good memories you had are the reasons you loved your partner. if right the memories you’re creating makes you cry every time then the best decision is to just let go of the relationship.
YOU DON’T SEE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER IN THE FUTURE
Why should you be in a relationship that won’t benefit you in the end? You shouldn’t date just because people are dating.
Nowadays it’s easy to get attention and get laid. It’s not good to pretend that you care for someone when clearly you don’t. It’s not fair for both of you and will just increase your pain and sorrows.
YOU DON’T TRUST YOUR PARTNER ANYMORE
Relationships are formed on the basis of trust, without trust relationships can’t work. If you find it hard trusting the individuals in your life then something is not right. You are in the wrong group. If you are dating someone and you find it difficult trusting them again after they’ve betrayed you then you better move out of that relationship instead of wasting your time.
YOU ARE WORTHLESS TO YOUR PARTNER AND THEY DON’T TREAT YOU RIGHT
Respect and love are the most essential things your partner deserves. If your partner doesn’t show any signs of respecting and loving you then they’re taking you for granted. You shouldn’t be with such a person in the first place. There are good people out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Just look for them.
YOU HAVE AN UNFAITHFUL PARTNER
I am not one of those individuals who give cheaters second chances but I know there are some individuals who find it easy forgiving them even thrice.
I, however, believe that giving cheaters second chances just piles up problems. Very few individuals will forget the past. Therefore, you’re definitely excused when you leave an unfaithful partner.
YOU HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE
Follow what your heart wants. You might be in love with someone but then you meet someone who blows your mind away. It’s something you cannot ignore. Go for it.
If you decide to date your new found love then it means you never loved the person you were dating before in the first place.
YOU FIND IT HARD LOVING YOUR PARTNER THE WAY YOUR PARTNER DESERVES
You can let go of your partner if you feel like they don’t deserve you. Although you love them unconditionally, you might feel that your partner deserves better and that you can’t fulfill their dream of their ideal partner. This is a difficult decision to make but it is the right thing to do. Give them a chance to meet someone they deserve.
Let’s be honest, being the mistress in an affair is never really a good thing. Of course, no one really sets out to be a mistress. Sometimes things just end up that way, and you find yourself falling for a married man. However, it doesn’t really matter if the affair is one-side or mutual when it comes to feelings. Being involved with a married man almost never is going to work out in your favor. The affair is most likely to end in pain and heartache. So, why not take the time to reflect upon your needs, wants, and self-love, and starting taking the steps towards breaking off the affair? It might not be easy, breaking up with someone never is. But you deserve to have a partner who is completely committed to you and is able to love you completely. A married man will never be able to do that. Let’s take a look at five steps you can take to help free yourself from being a mistress so that you can be ready to find a partner that is available and ready to love you without the burdens that come with having an affair.
Look for a Distraction
When it comes to the dating world, the possibilities are endless, and so are your prospects for finding a partner that it’s already married. It’s time to get out there and open yourself up to the possibilities. And giving yourself a distraction will be the perfect way to get over your affair and allow yourself to move one. It may take some time, but distractions in the form of dating other men can be fun and exciting. And who knows, it could very well lead to find your perfect match!
Demand the Two of You Spend More Time Together
This may seem like a strange approach. However, if you demand that the married man you’re seeing spend more time with you, chances are if he complies, you’re going to see different sides of him. That’s because if you’ve only been spending a little time together when he can get away from his wife, he’s only going to show you his best side. But in spending more time together, you may be surprised at the type of man he really is, therefore making it easier to break it off.
Ask for More
A married man more than likely will like to shower you with gifts as his mistress. Don’t be afraid to accept those gifts and even ask for more. Asking for more will more than likely eventually get too demanding and irritating, causing a rift in the relationship. It’s not a healthy relationship to begin with anyway if he’s okay cheating on his wife. So, why not benefit from those gifts while you can. You’ll at least have something to fall back on financially when the relationship does finally end.
Don’t be Afraid to Show Your Bad Side
When you’re having an affair, it’s most likely the both of you have only been showing each other your good side. And that’s definitely true for the married man. So, now it’s time to let your real feelings loose and see how he reacts. Chances are, he’s not willing to put up with those emotions and feeling for the long haul and will probably react poorly, showing you is bad side. And that will definitely make breaking off the relationship easier.
Learn (or Re-Learn) to Love Yourself
It’s never too late to learn to love yourself. And if you’ve been the mistress in a relationship, it may be time to re-learn how to love and appreciate yourself. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and devotion that a married man will never be able to give you completely. In doing so, you’ll be well on your way to breaking it off and finding a partner who is ready to love you as much as you’ve learned to love yourself!
Nobody wants to go through a breakup. It can be heartbreaking and exhausting both mentally and physically. But like it or not, breakups happen. Whether it was due to an unreconcilable disagreement, unpleasant events, or infidelity, sometimes a breakup is inescapable. But if you’re still in love with the person you’re breaking up with, the process can be even more difficult. But there are ways you can handle and cope with a breakup with someone you still love and move on with your life without regrets.
Maintaining a Healthy Distance
When trying to get over an ex, keeping a healthy distance from them is a key way to help heal and move on. Deciding the level of distance needed is up to you and your former partner. And you can always start small and then increase the distance as time goes on.
Clear communication is essential for any breakup. Because if you’re not on the same page as your partner, it could lead to problems and worse heartache. It’s never easy to decide to break-up, but the need for clear and concise communication is important in order for both parties to express what they’re feeling and what they need when it comes to making it through the break-up. Don’t place blame, as that will most likely lead to arguments and worsen the circumstances.
Leaning on Your Support Network
Support from friends and family is always needed after you’ve gone through a break-up, especially if your partner was you everyday source of support. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to reach out to your loved ones and lean on them whenever you need emotional support or are feeling weak when it comes to your ex and thinking about getting back together with them. Use your friends and family. Lean on them. They are the ones who will be there for you through thick and thin, and they will be the ones to help guide you through your breakup, helping you to move on.
When you and your partner decide to break up, it’s very important to establish boundaries between the two of you. This means laying out guidelines and expectations about your relationship moving forward. You’ll want to figure out where the boundaries need to be drawn and also how you’ll talk to your friends and family about the breakup, as well as deciding a plan for dividing up belongings and space if that applies.
Moving on Without Hard Feelings
Moving on may be a difficult process, especially if you’re still in love with your partner. And it may take a substantial amount of time to fully move on. But moving on is essential to healing and letting go. It’s important to move on without any hard feelings as well, because focusing on the negative will only hold you back and hinder your healing process.
Breaking up is never an easy thing to do. And if you still have feelings for your partner, it can prove to be even more difficult. But in time, with clear communication and the goal in mind to move on, you’ll eventually heal and head on to brighter and better relationship in the future.
How do you decide it’s time to leave a relationship that hasn’t fallen to the level of an outright failure, but it’s stopped feeling gratifying? Couples can spend years, even decades, in relationships like this! These relationships can best be described as “comfortable.” And comfort in a relationship isn’t something to be taken lightly. At some point our lives, comfort and security are the things we will likely crave the most from a relationship. The complicating factor in all of this is that you can’t find comfort and security with just anybody. It needs to be with someone who’s making you feel that way based on serenity and happiness.
But if you’re often finding yourself wondering if you’d be happier with someone else, you’ll never feel fully comfortable or secure with your current partner. And your partner won’t feel it with you, either.
If a relationship is toxic, then the decision to leave it should feel like a relatively easy one to make, unless there are children or financial issues involved. It’s when the relationship still feels kind of good–not too bad, but not so great anymore–that the decision to leave becomes a difficult one. It may be very easy for you to envision a more wonderful relationship with someone else. Even so, it can be very difficult to give up the so-so one you’re in, especially when you figure in the trouble and pain involved in breaking up.
Of course, this does not mean that you should leave a relationship at the first hint of dissatisfaction! No relationship is wonderful at every point. Commitment is as valuable as it is because it carries people through the less-than-wonderful times. It’s when the less-than-wonderful times become the standard, and you don’t foresee any wonderful ones in the near future, that you naturally may begin to consider alternatives to staying in the relationship. It’s possible for commitment to hold a relationship together, but commitment can’t carry that weight on its own. There has to be something else of value in the relationship to work together with the couple’s commitments.
If you find yourself in a so-so relationship and your pondering your options, ask yourself this question: Why are you staying in the relationship?” Your answer should be, “I can’t imagine myself feeling happier with anyone else.” It may seem selfish to place your happiness as the top priority in a relationship. But it’s not selfish. Happiness is what relationships are for, after all. Nobody is obligated to remain in a relationship that isn’t make them happy. The only obligation they really have is to try to be as honest with their partner about their concerns as is possible, and if the time comes, to end the relationship with empathy and sensitivity.
If your answer is anything else besides the happiness one, you may want to consider the option of leaving the relationship. There may be reasons to stay in a relationship that seem “nobler” than happiness, such as feelings of obligation, duty, or gratitude. But if those things aren’t giving you a sense of happiness and fulfillment, then they aren’t enough to serve as an anchor to a successful and healthy long-term relationship.
Try looking at it like this: Would your partner want you committed to the relationship just because you feel like you should be? Conversely, would you want your partner to stay for that reason? True love isn’t rooted in obligation. True love only has meaning when it’s freely given.
So if you’ve decided you want to end your relationship, but you find it’s going to be difficult to actually end it due to the pain you and your partner will feel, here are some factors to consider:
- There will certainly be pain involved when the relationship ends. Even though the relationship wasn’t a great one, it wasn’t terrible, either. There is warmth and love that will definitely be lost. As time goes on, the pain will fade. And you and your partner will both have the rest of your lives to find happiness again.
- If you’re feeling unsatisfied in the relationship, your partner probably is, too. Before you make the decision to end it, you’ve hopefully discussed this with each other. Ending a relationship shouldn’t ever come as a surprise to one of the people involved in it. If it does, then nobody is doing anyone else a favor by staying in it. Staying would just serve to extend the dull long-term pain in an effort to prevent the sharp short-term pain of a break-up, which may be inevitable anyways.
It’s easy to be lulled into the false sense of security and comfort of an okay, so-so relationship. It’s also easy to put off ending it by trying to rationalize that it’s better to stay in it. But if you truly believe that you and your partner could both be happier with someone else, then you owe it to yourselves to consider if ending the relationship is the best option.
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You’re in love, but your relationship has become toxic and can’t continue. Maybe you’re lying awake night after night, mentally rehashing the fights. Or, maybe you can’t understand how your partner can so easily ignore how you feel, and why your partner won’t change. Or, you’re wondering if you were ever truly loved at all.
The pain has become unbearable. If you don’t end things now, you might completely lose yourself. You have already tried literally everything you could to save the relationship, but nothing has worked. You know the time has come to end it, but the thought of being alone is terrifying.
Why does it have to hurt so badly?
Learning how to let go of someone you care about is extremely difficult.
Many people must accept that their relationships just are not meant to be. There are many reasons for this. Sometimes, one partner is cheating, or often lies. Or worse, there may be physical, verbal, or emotional abuse involved in the relationship. (An important note: If you believe you’re in a dangerous situation, seek help right away.)
Usually in toxic relationships, it doesn’t matter how much the partners love each other. It doesn’t matter how hard they’re trying to make it work. If it’s toxic, nothing will work. Nobody is worth losing yourself over, and it’s time to end the relationship. It’s time to find the strength to get out of it and move on with life.
You Deserve Better
Simply loving someone else isn’t enough to make the relationship succeed. The love needs to be reciprocal; if you’re not receiving love in return, the relationship is going to become toxic and is not going to succeed.
By wasting time on the wrong person, you’re preventing the right person from coming into your life. How can they come your way if the space is already filled? It’s time to let go.
Don’t Count on Your Partner Changing
Waiting for your partner to change is probably the most significant mistake someone can make when electing to stay in a toxic relationship where they’re being mistreated. It’s difficult to accept, but you must come to the realization that the only person you can control is you. The other person in the relationship need to face their own mistakes. If they don’t want to change, it’s most likely that they won’t. They may make promises and vow to turn things around. In the moment, they may even be genuinely committed to their intentions.
But especially if you’ve been through this all before, and they’ve made the same promises before, they probably won’t change this time around, either.
Personal change can not be forced. It must originate within. If it doesn’t, it’s likely that things will not work out. It can’t come at the request of someone else, and it can’t be coerced. Nobody will genuinely change for someone else, and some relationships just can’t be fixed.
It Will Hurt
There’s no easy way around it: ending a romantic relationship, no matter how toxic it is, is going to hurt. A lot! But the pain won’t linger forever. No matter how much you want to deny it, the passage of time will help you heal.
The relationship may have started off in a healthy way. But as it became more toxic, you forgot how to live for yourself. Instead of the other person being a part of your life, they’ve become your life.
When the relationship first ends, you will likely miss the feelings of being wanted and desired. You’ll long for the close and intimate moments you used to share. But getting yourself through that initial pain and discomfort of being alone is usually the most difficult stage. Working through the pain instead of avoiding it will limit the likelihood of your feelings coming back later on to haunt you.
So once you get through that initial stage, things will becomes easier. And the lessons you have learned along the way will allow you to grow stronger and to become a better version of yourself.
Crying It Out
When you’re feeling pain, the best thing you can do for yourself is to release it. Don’t try to hold it in.
Our culture expects us to show that we’re strong, even when we are in the midst of dealing with a tough situation. But that doesn’t make us strong. The more we try to hold our pain in and try to prove that we’re strong, the worse we will feel. This will lead to us feeling stress on top of the pain.
So what should we do? Try crying. Cry as much as you need to. Cry like a baby. Don’t hold anything back; just let it all out. Crying can help with the healing process. Trying to show that you’re strong will just stress you out.
Stop trying to pretend that everything’s okay. It’s not.
Let the tears keep falling until they dry up on their own. The tears may last for days or for weeks, but you will certainly feel like a new person when they end. You will feel less stress. Your thinking will clear, and you’ll realize that things aren’t nearly as bad as you thought they were.
You may even start to smile again! It may be over something as seemingly insignificant, like how the clouds are dodging the sun as it shines in the sky. You’ll find you aren’t in a dark place anymore. You’ll feel like a new person.
Spend Some Time Away
You may feel like the end of the relationship is the end of the world. But it’s not.
Your mind attempts to play tricks on you, and you start to believe the lie that it isn’t possible for you to be happy again. But it is!
As mentioned above, the best cure for pain is the passage of time. Day by day, things will get easier. Taking the time you need to rest your mind, your heart and your soul gives you the opportunity to heal, and lets you get to know yourself again.
Maybe there’s an activity you enjoy doing, or a hobby that you love. Maybe your involvement in the toxic relationship prevented you from doing those things. Well, take the time now to do them! Do what you enjoy. And really get involved. Let yourself focus fully on what you’re doing.
Eventually, you’ll find that you’ve been thinking less about the relationship. It won’t leave your thoughts immediately, but over time, it will. And even though that relationship didn’t work out as you may have planned, you will come to the realization that you can still enjoy your life.
Reclaim Your Control
Taking your control back begins with you. Your life is not over. You can get through it; you are able to overcome the situation. The load on your chest has been lifted. The tears have stopped falling.
Try to imagine being happy again, and that you’re enjoying doing the things you used to love doing. You can be content in the present and not worry about the future. You will realize that you deserve better than what you had. It may be difficult to imagine, but it is certainly possible.
Everyone needs help at one time or another. You don’t have to go through this alone. If you’ve recently ended a toxic relationship, or if you’re still in it, there are people out there who can help you. Seek help from your loved ones, a professional therapist or counselor, or a clergy member. They can help you recover and get your life back on the right track.
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You know things in your relationship just are not working anymore. You’ve tried everything you can think of to fix things, but nothing has worked. You’re still in love, and it’s so hard to end it. And knowing that it’s time to end it doesn’t make it any easier.
Breaking up with someone is usually just as difficult to face as being broken up with! Here are ten reasons why it’s difficult to end a committed, romantic relationship.
- There’s history involved. As you start thinking of how to end the relationship, you’re overcome by all of your good memories together and force out your thoughts of all of the bad things that are going on. You do have a lot of history together. But if the bad times outweigh the good, that probably means that it’s time to end it.
- You feel a sense of security from what’s familiar. If you’ve been in the relationship for a long time, you’re probably grown quite comfortable being together. You know how to co-exist, and you know what makes the other persom tick. The prospect of having to start over from scratch and find someone new is not very appealing to you at all.
- You are waiting for things to get better in the relationship. Sometimes, it feels like you’re standing out in the dry desert, waiting futilely for it to rain. It might happen, right? If things get worse every time you thought you have already hit rock bottom in the relationship, it’s time to stop waiting and to end the relationship.
- Leaving the relationship means you are leaving other people, too. The longer you were together in the relationship, the more your familial circles and social circles overlap. Over time, you bond and create relationships with the people who are close each other. If you end the romantic relationship, you’re also ending relationships with each other’s friends and family, making the loss even greater.
- You like being in a relationship. You don’t want to be single, so you want to be in a relationship–any relationship. You love the feeling of being in a relationship, But you know you can’t stay in your current relationship. It’s hurting you more than it’s helping you, so it’s time to end it. You should not ever be in a relationship simply for the sake of being in a relationship. To make it worth staying in, the relationship should be a good one that is healthy.
- You don’t want to just give up on everything you’ve been fighting for. It’s hard to give up what you’ve been putting all that effort into and work so hard to save. You certainly don’t want to face the fact that it all was for nothing, and the relationship is ending anyways. But it’s not worth it to wear yourself out working for the relationship if it’s time to end it.
- You fear you will never be able to find someone else. And, you fear the other person will find someone better than you, and therefore forget about you. There are plenty of other people out there who can make either of you just as happy, if not happier. Don’t ever believe there isn’t someone else out there for you, because there certainly is. If this relationship isn’t working, there’s someone else that it will work with. Finding someone else doesn’t erase the good things the two of you shared.
- You fear being alone. The fear of loneliness is one of the worst possible reasons for choosing to stay in a relationship. Even when you’re in a relationship that’s healthy, you should experience feelings of strength and independence. Your significant other is not the only other person on the planet who is there for you. You had your friends and family before you were in the relationship, and you’ll have them afterwards, too.
- You’re concerned that you will feel regret after ending the relationship. First, you shouldn’t stress about things that have yet to happen. You have no way of knowing how you will feel after it’s over. It’s even possible that you will feel relieved. Second, you won’t feel regret over a decision that you know is a good one. It may not be quite what you hoped for. But the relationship needs to end, and that is what’s most important.
- You don’t want to lose the friendship you have with your ex. One of the worst parts of leaving someone we’re in a romantic relationship with is the fear of completely losing touch with that person. Aside from them being your romantic partner, they were also your friend. If the romantic relationship is irreparable, then the time has come to end it. If it’s meant for you to be friends, you will be.