Let’s be honest, being the mistress in an affair is never really a good thing. Of course, no one really sets out to be a mistress. Sometimes things just end up that way, and you find yourself falling for a married man. However, it doesn’t really matter if the affair is one-side or mutual when it comes to feelings. Being involved with a married man almost never is going to work out in your favor. The affair is most likely to end in pain and heartache. So, why not take the time to reflect upon your needs, wants, and self-love, and starting taking the steps towards breaking off the affair? It might not be easy, breaking up with someone never is. But you deserve to have a partner who is completely committed to you and is able to love you completely. A married man will never be able to do that. Let’s take a look at five steps you can take to help free yourself from being a mistress so that you can be ready to find a partner that is available and ready to love you without the burdens that come with having an affair.
Look for a Distraction
When it comes to the dating world, the possibilities are endless, and so are your prospects for finding a partner that it’s already married. It’s time to get out there and open yourself up to the possibilities. And giving yourself a distraction will be the perfect way to get over your affair and allow yourself to move one. It may take some time, but distractions in the form of dating other men can be fun and exciting. And who knows, it could very well lead to find your perfect match!
Demand the Two of You Spend More Time Together
This may seem like a strange approach. However, if you demand that the married man you’re seeing spend more time with you, chances are if he complies, you’re going to see different sides of him. That’s because if you’ve only been spending a little time together when he can get away from his wife, he’s only going to show you his best side. But in spending more time together, you may be surprised at the type of man he really is, therefore making it easier to break it off.
Ask for More
A married man more than likely will like to shower you with gifts as his mistress. Don’t be afraid to accept those gifts and even ask for more. Asking for more will more than likely eventually get too demanding and irritating, causing a rift in the relationship. It’s not a healthy relationship to begin with anyway if he’s okay cheating on his wife. So, why not benefit from those gifts while you can. You’ll at least have something to fall back on financially when the relationship does finally end.
Don’t be Afraid to Show Your Bad Side
When you’re having an affair, it’s most likely the both of you have only been showing each other your good side. And that’s definitely true for the married man. So, now it’s time to let your real feelings loose and see how he reacts. Chances are, he’s not willing to put up with those emotions and feeling for the long haul and will probably react poorly, showing you is bad side. And that will definitely make breaking off the relationship easier.
Learn (or Re-Learn) to Love Yourself
It’s never too late to learn to love yourself. And if you’ve been the mistress in a relationship, it may be time to re-learn how to love and appreciate yourself. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and devotion that a married man will never be able to give you completely. In doing so, you’ll be well on your way to breaking it off and finding a partner who is ready to love you as much as you’ve learned to love yourself!