Have you ever had a guy that could just not stop thinking about you? One that would do whatever you needed in order to be happy, free, safe and loved? Men, unlike women, often will hide how they are really feeling including the fact that they might possibly be attached to you emotionally. If you want to know if a guy is emotionally attached, it is important that you look at the signs and how he treats you.

Emotional Attachment

Being emotionally attached to someone does not happen right away. When you are in a healthy and happy relationship, emotional attachment will begin to happen in different stages. In the first stage of love, you become a friend and he will become attached to you as a friend. This is nothing romantic and just a good time hanging out with him and with other people and maybe you don’t even talk to him very much or maybe he texts once in a while. There could even be the scenario where you have the same friends and you hang out at the same places, but you are just there to have fun and neither of you is jealous of the other.

When stage two comes, there becomes a stronger attachment and this attachment is a physical attachment. This happens when someone finds you attractive and there is a chemistry between you. You are attracted to how the other looks and then you decide to be intimate with each other, or maybe even just flirty. You might kiss, hold hands and stand close to one another and this is nothing more than just a physical attraction.

In the last stage, emotional attachment comes. This is where you are when you and your partner begin to have a relationship that means something. You discuss everything and when things go wrong, they are the first person that you run to. You share your goals and dreams and you are able to talk forever with it seeming like it has only been minutes.

Signs of Emotional Attachment

One of the biggest signs that a guy is emotionally attached to you is that he will do anything to show how much he cares for you. This can mean he would drive a few hours just to see you and do a dinner of your favorite foods or he will come over and repair your house. He will never get tired of doing nice things for you to see you happy, as a matter of fact, he wants to know when he can help you again so that he can see you and be there for you. He is always there for you no matter what.

Contacting You

Another sign is that he will contact you either through phone calls or through messages because he cannot stop thinking about you. He wants to hear from you, your voice, get a text from you, anything. He is so emotionally invested in you that he will take time to talk to you and be close to you. This is interesting with men because men always seem to focus on what they really care about and if he is taking time out for you, that is a good sign.

Friends and Family

When you are just friends with someone, meeting your family is not very important to them but when a guy becomes emotionally attached to you, chances are that he will want to meet your friends and family and he will want you to meet his. This is a good sign that he wants to be in a long-term relationship with you.

Spending Time Together

A guy that is into you will want to spend a lot of time with you, I mean a lot. He will want to be close to you and he will make excuses to see you. He will spend all of his free time with you and you will become his top priority over his family and friends because his relationship with you will be the most important thing to him.

Important Dates and Things

Truth is, men do not always remember sentimental things such as important dates such as birthdays and other things. If a guy is older, he is even more likely to forget important things than women do. But, if a guy is emotionally attached to you, he will remember all of the dates that are important to you such as your birthday, things you put on your calendar and other things that you find important.

Not only will he remember important things, he will remember things such as your favorite song, color, restaurant and things you like.


Men like to guard their emotions and their heart, and they like to put up a fence when people get close to them. This can happen because of childhood situations, relationships or being rejected. When a guy is into you and attached to you, he will forget he has a wall up and he will drop his guard. He will be attached to you and this could even mean he loves you.


Guys that are ready to commit are usually emotionally attached to women because before that, they are usually afraid of being tied down to someone. If a guy is pushing you to commit to him, this is a sign that he thinks you are his forever love.


Men do not like to ask for advice, directions, advice, shall I go on? Men like to ask other men or seek out professionals for answers but when a guy begins asking you for advice on things, it means he has given you a piece of his heart and he is beginning to trust you. A guy that will ask a lady for advice more than likely feels that he can come to you for anything such as what to wear to an interview, what color he should buy to paint his fence or what television he should get for his den. When he asks you for advice, he wants you to know that he wants you to be a part of his life.

Sticking Up for You

When a guy is emotionally attached to you, he will defend you, even if it means making other people in his life mad. He will do this because he is interested in you and he wants to protect you.

Leaving You

One good way that you can know a guy is emotionally attached to you is when times are hard. Many guys will leave at the first sign of problems but when you have a guy that is attached to you, he will stick with you through the thick, the thin and the ugly. When things get hard, see if he stays or if he leaves. If he stays, chances are he really cares for you and wants to be in your life.

Unhealthy Emotional Attachment

Attachment issues can be both healthy and unhealthy. When someone is obsessive, this becomes an unhealthy emotional attachment and will lead to unhealthy relationships that result and pain and heartache. Sometimes relationships like these are hard to leave because the guy will feel that he has to be there even when things are not good. They will feel attached to you even if there is no love and it becomes a negative situation. Here are some signs of an unhealthy emotional attachment:

  • You cannot be with them without worrying what you will do wrong.
  • You fell in love fast.
  • You get upset when you don’t get texted or called back immediately.
  • You think they don’t love you when they don’t contact you right away.
  • You are jealous of all the things they do.
  • You overthink everything they say and do.
  • You give up on your friends and family to be with him.
  • You stop doing things you love because he doesn’t love to do them.
  • Your friends tell you that you are too attached.

Getting Help

Having a healthy emotional attachment is good and can be a rewarding experience but when the attachment becomes obsessive, it can be time to get some professional help.

There are doctors that are out there that can help you. If you find that you always attract men that have unhealthy attachments with you, or if you find that you become attached too quickly with someone, you are not the only person that has this and there are doctors that can help you.  Seek out a professional therapist and talk to them and let them help you.

Knowing a Man is Emotionally Attached

When a guy has an attachment to you, he will be attracted to you, come to see you and will want to have deep conversations with you. A guy can be attached to you quietly or love you without saying anything, but most guys will show you signs.

Is He Invested?

When a man is invested in you, here are some signs you can look for:

  • He wants to spend time with you.
  • He calls you.
  • He texts you often.
  • He is not dating other people.
  • He makes you feel good about who you are.
  • He makes you feel special.
  • He values your opinion.
  • He wants to hold you and kiss you and be close to you.
  • He is honest with you.
  • He will do anything for you, even when you don’t ask.

Emotional Connection

Men will feel emotionally connected just like women do. Even though many marriages end in divorces, most people that get into a relationship feel an emotional connection at some point or another. Rather this lasts or not, it was there for a time.

A man is usually in love with the person that he is emotionally connected with and when you find out if a man loves you, chances are you will see how connected to you he is.

How to Get Emotionally Attached

Getting a man emotionally attached is not hard, you just have to really care about him and want to see your relationship grow. Ladies will not get a man attached by being their friends, this can be a start, but it really happens when you are close to each other and you have a connection.

Attachment After Kissing

Most guys do not get attached just by kissing you, but this can be a sign that they want to be close to you. When you kiss someone, it shows them that you care about them and this can be lust or love.

Do They Think About You?

A guy that is emotionally unavailable will not think about you much but when he is, he will:

  • Think about you all the time.
  • Take care of your needs.
  • Tell people about you.
  • Talk about the future.
  • Put you first over his family and friends.
  • Share with you honestly.

Falling in Love

No one is really sure why people fall in love but when this happens, it is a great thing. Men that are loving and kind are never selfish and will go out of their way to be with you.

The law of attraction is when you are focusing on a relationship and then they come to you and want to be with you. They are fully devoted to you and they want to share their life with you, and they want you to be with them and only them. Having a relationship does not happen overnight and it takes time.

How Does He Feel?

A relationship expert might tell you that a guy that falls in love with you will only want to be with you. They might also tell you some signs that they will show such as:

  • Saying I love You in public.
  • Saying “we” and not “me.”
  • Putting you first.
  • Showing loving actions.
  • He will do things that you love even if he doesn’t.
  • Gives you surprises.
  • Remembers important things.
  • Wants to see you.
  • Introduces you to everyone he knows.

Falling in Love

A man that falls in love will feel happy with you. He will be comfortable around you and will know that you are there for him no matter what. He would willingly lay his life down to help you or to protect you if he needed to.